Letter to Amazon

In response to this blog post about Amazon.com, I took my own advice and wrote them an e-mail. The text of the e-mail is below:

Director of Customer Service:

I was surfing the Internet this morning and came across a report of a book that Amazon.com is selling. The title of this book is "Understanding Loved Boys and Boy Lovers." In the past, I have purchased several items from Amazon.com and turned to your site first to purchase books online. After reading these posts and coming under God's conviction, I have made up my mind never to purchase items from Amazon.com again.

Please be aware that this book is not the only book or item you sell that I disagree with. There are a plethora of others. Reading the articles online about "Understanding Loved Boys and Boy Lovers" simply made me aware of the problem. From this point forward, I will research companies I do business with. I will not do business with companies that sell things or engage in practices I disagree with.

I have posted an entry on my blog about this issue. The URL is http://www.techs4jesus.com/cgi-bin/blosxom.cgi?/2005/08/13#20050813_AmazonCom. In addition, I will encourage others to research where they do business and not do business with companies they have problems with.

Thank you for your time.

Sincerely,
Matthew Maxson

Amazon.com

I was surfing the Internet this morning when I came across this post about amazon.com. The author wrote the following letter to Amazon.com

I’m a pretty open-minded sort, but there are limits beyond which decent merchants should not go–such as offering a book like Understanding Loved Boys and Boylovers. I appreciate that the Amazon.com review was pretty hostile, but do you really need the tiny profit that you make selling this book?

If a publisher asked you to sell a book about how rape is actually a good thing for rapist and victim, would you sell it? What about a book encouraging the torture of children? How about a book promoting genocide as a net positive for the human race? Are there depths that Amazon.com won’t dive down to in the pursuit of a profit? If so, why do you consider it necessary to promote this sort of destruction of the innocence of children?

I wrote you a few months back, when I first saw that you were selling this apology for child molestation. I assumed that you had this book on our your list because you hadn’t thought this through. I see that you are still selling it. Why? You don’t sell every book that’s offered. Paladin Press published a book some years ago about how to be a contract killer, and you don’t seem to carry that. So why carry a book that tries to justify molesting children?

I have an Amazon.com Honor System Account with you that has made a bit of money for both of us; over the last few years, my wife and I have bought many hundreds of dollars worth of books, perhaps thousands of dollars worth of books from you. If you are still offering Understanding Loved Boys and Boylovers at the end of this month, you will never see another penny from me.

I would prefer to keep doing business with Amazon.com. I at least would like some explanation for why you consider it so important to offer a book like this that you are prepared to drive away a long-time customer. Please ask Jeff Bezos to explain why the paltry profit you make on a book like this justifies putting Amazon.com into the sewer of human depravity.

To sumarize, we have a guy who has dealt with Amazon.com quite a bit. He had one of those refer systems set up where both parties make a bit of money. He found something he disagreed with that the company does and sent them an e-mail asking about it.

He received the following response back from Amazon.com

Thank you for writing to Amazon.com with your concern.

Let me assure you, Amazon.com does not endorse “Understanding Loved Boys and Boylovers.” Simply because we sell a book does not mean we agree with the ideas it contains. If you will look at our site, you will see that we have posted a review of the book by one of our editors which is highly critical of the ideas expressed in Mr. Riegel’s book.

Please know that, contrary to rumors that have been circulating around the Internet, this book is not a “how-to” manual for molesting children. The author simply expresses his point of view about what he feels are “misunderstood” relationships between men and boys.

We believe that people have the right to choose their own reading material. Our goal is to support freedom of expression and provide customers with the broadest selection possible so they can find, discover, and buy any title they might be seeking.

That selection includes some titles which most people, including employees of Amazon.com, may find distasteful or otherwise objectionable. However, Amazon.com believes it is censorship to make a book unavailable to our customers because we believe its message to be repugnant.

While we do not censor items from our web site, I wanted to reassure you that Amazon.com does not promote these kinds of titles.

We value all feedback from our customers, and I thank you again for taking the time to send us your comments about this issue.

Please let us know if this e-mail resolved your question

The author goes on to state that 

It resolved the question for me. No more purchases from Amazon.com. My wife just ordered a book for a class she is gong to be teaching in the summer. She’ll make sure that the textbooks ordered for her class come from someone else.

In short, Amazon.com says that they sell lots of stuff and don’t want to limit anyone’s “choice”. Here is a company serving the almighty dollar pure and simple.

For those who noticed, the blog posts I linked to were written in 2003. Has Amazon.com changed anything? Let’s find out. If you go to Amazon.com and search for Understanding Loved Boys abd Boy Lovers, it’s still there.

So what do I do now? I never thought about it before, but I’m sure I visit losts of stores that sell stuff I don’t agree with. Why should I “endorse” their stand? We all need to determine what we believe in and take a stand. I didn’t really order a ton of stuff from Amazon.com, but I won’t be ordering anything else from them anymore. I will also try to do my due diligence with companies I do business with.

I would encourage everyone to do the same. Research, as much as possible, the companies you do business with. If you find something you disagree with, ask them about it. Let them know your plans. Take a stand.

Since this has been brought to my attention, I won’t be ordering any more items from Amazon.com.

[Update 12-22-2010 11:11:01] I was looking through my stats today and noticed I had someone do a google search and find this article.  I had, frankly, forgot I wrote it.  Given I just got a kindle and signed up for their affiliate program, I went out and did a search.  I could not find the book mentioned on their site.  Holy Cow, I can’t believe I forgot and let this slip like this…..

Interesting Evangelism Idea

This is one of the first posts I have read on this paticular blog, but it sounds like a really neat idea.

As many in the ministry are probably now doing, I have adopted Starbucks as a second office for my personal study, and also my sermon preparation…

One of my main purposes in using Starbucks to study is that I am with people. It has been my prayer and hope that God would give me some people to share my faith with. Finally, it happened today.

Good Coffee, New Friend

This ties in nicely with the idea of Strategic Consumerism. In some ways, I wish I had a job that would allow me to do something like this.

Just open your eyes and you'll be amazed at what God is doing around you. Just remember to follow God and be real.

The Sagemont Story

Salem Baptist Church is having Dr. John Morgan come in to speak to the church about his story. His story is about how Sagemont Church put their faith in God, and how God kept His promise and followed through. Pastor Zbinden has CDs and tapes with an audio presentation of their story. I have sent Dr. Morgan an e-mail asking for permission to post MP3s on my website. This story is awesome and inspiring. It shows how, when we follow God wherever He leads, God is always keeps His promises.

Incarnational vs Attractional

Over the past week, I have started reading more and more blogs. I started with a few, and as they referenced others, I added them to my list. Some are good, others are so so, and others aren't very good at all. I read them all though to get some different viewpoints. Sometimes the stuff I read is very good. Other stuff just makes me think. This set of articles at Van S' Blog is one that made me think. I'm still trying to figure out how it relates to "church" in the US.

I do know that the International Mission Board sends people to be an incarnational witness. I know that the people at Sagemont Church started by moving from where they were into the neighborhood where they started the church. All in all, part of being a good witness is simply being around people and loving them as you go about your normal life.

In short, I think the "right" balance is probably somewhere between Incarnational and Attractional. But, I think that balance will just happen. As you are incarnational with people, develop friendships, witness to people, love people, care about them, and disciple them to do the same once they get saved people will be drawn. People wo't be drawn by what WE DO but simply because we are allowing Christ to live through us.

Below are links to several articles. Enjoy!

Incarnational Practice 1: Move and Observe
Incarnational Practice 2: Practice Strategic Consumerism
Incarnational Practice 3: Gather in 3rd Places and Homes
Incarnational Practice 4: Mobilize Discipleship
Incarnational Practice 5: Volunteering (instead of starting new programs)
Incarnational Practice 6: Limit Through-Traffic

Scary

This post by Dr. Mohler about a religious test for judges is scary. Come on folks…have you not read the Constitution? To do this would be incredibly unconstitutional.

He actually suggests that Christian leaders — both Roman Catholic and Evangelical — should be called before the Senate Judiciary Committee to say whether they would discipline a church member who, as a judge, voted to uphold Roe v. Wade. He suggests that a Catholic judge, for example, has "an automatic conflict of interest" when it comes to cases dealing with abortion. The same would hold true for an evangelical judge whose church would take action against him on the basis of his judicial decisions.

I can honestly say that I never expected a major American newspaper to give space to such a blatantly unconstitutional argument. The Constitution prohibits any religious test for public office. Given this nation's political history, one might think that a paper located in highly-Catholic Boston would keep this Constitutional principle rather firmly in mind.

Since liberal denominations take a liberal position on abortion, they get a pass, along with judicial nominees who may be their members. This kind of proposed legislation would be directed only at denominations and churches that are pro-life.

Saudis

Every morning, I usually do the same thing. This morning, I came across this Baptist Press article about Saudi Arabia. Here are some quotes:

The ailing King Fahd, who inherited the desert kingdom his father founded and saw become the world’s biggest and richest oil producer, died Aug. 1. Crown Prince Abdullah, de facto ruler since his elder brother Fahd began suffering debilitating strokes a decade ago, now is officially the absolute monarch over more than 25 million people in Saudi Arabia.

Abdullah recently visited the Texas ranch of President Bush, who calls him a friend and ally against global terror. The new king styles himself as a moderate and a reformer, according to Saudi watchers. But he stands between powerful and opposing pressures inside and outside his kingdom: internal threats from radical Islamist forces and international demands that he democratize Saudi society and wipe out the brand of extremism that produced Osama bin Laden.

He allowed local elections (for male voters only) earlier this year and has sponsored some educational reforms. But don’t expect major change any time soon, advises “Jess Martin,”* a Christian who closely observes events in the kingdom.

Why? Because of tradition, a culture that rewards conformity and consensus –- and exclusive Islamic rule. Any other public religious expression is forbidden and punished, even among foreign workers.

Expatriate workers from Asian nations like the Philippines and Bangladesh who dare to worship Christ in home groups usually receive harsher treatment –- including arrest and imprisonment — than Westerners. Any Saudi Arab who embraces a faith other than Islam will face persecution and possibly death.

“Militancy is not where the average Saudi sits,” Martin observes. “The average Saudi wants many of the same things the average American does. He wants his kids to do well in school. He wants to have a certain standard of living. He wants a good job.”

The average Saudi also knows -– deep down –- that he is spiritually lost.

“They don’t need democracy; they need an encounter with the living God,” Martin stresses. “When you go inside a Saudi’s house, and you sit and talk to him, you’ll see his heart and it is just as sinful as everyone else’s — and he knows it. The challenge for us is: What are we going to do about it? What are we going to do in obedience to God to take Christ to the people called Saudi Arabs?”

That article led me to this site: http://www.lovesaudis.com/. I would recommend you go visit the site.

How should parents parent?

So how should parents parent? Should they give their kids everything they want? Should they constantly put down their kids? Here is a link to an agape press article about Pushover Parenting.

Focus on the Family’s Dr. Bill Maier says the results of the study are disturbing but perhaps to be expected in light of another problem of increasing prevalence — the problem of what he calls pushover parents. “Unfortunately, there are a significant number of parents in this country who are unable or unwilling to provide their children with the moral guidance they so desperately need,” he says.

“These parents are so concerned about being liked by their kids that they fail to place any limits on their children’s behavior — even behavior that is dangerous or destructive,” Maier continues. He points to recent examples: a single mom in Florida, who stands accused of having sex with her son’s 15-year-old friend while he was spending the night at their house; and a Colorado case in which a woman allegedly threw parties for her teenage son and his friends, giving them alcohol and sexual favors.

Parents are supposed to raise their kids right. This means that the kids don’t get what they want all the time. The parents teach the kids right and wrong. The parents put limits on their kids. The parents (horror of horrors) punish their kids when the do wrong. Parents should spank their kids–no, timeouts aren’t enough. Parents are in charge and they should act like it.

Just so no one thinks otherwise, child abuse is wrong. There is clearly a wrong way to raise kids (treat them like slaves, always belittle them, etc…). Parenting is hard but, from what I have heard, rewarding work.

[Update 2012-12-26 06:42:18] Removed link to article.  It did point to http://headlines.agapepress.org/archive/8/122005e.asp; however, agape press is now OneNewsNow and I can’t find the article again.

Intentional Friend Making

Van posts in his blog about Intentional Friend Making. For those of you who visit these types of places, you may find this interesting (I don't really care for the bar idea though).

Pay attention to where people congregate and hang out. It could be a coffee shop, it could be a bar, it could be the park, or the library, or a cruddy diner, or the local YWCA, or community center, etc. We should try to spend our time more and more where neighborhood people spend their time.